Project:Dating Privacy
Presentation
The idea of a "data collective" is to bring together individuals that have the same concern in a particular topic (dating) affected by how digital platforms collect their personal data and affect their lives.
Dating Privacy aims to contribute with better development standards and user practices on dating apps that match the users' interests and protect their intimate life.
Members of the data collective Dating Privacy are using the right to fight against the risks associated with the use of dating apps, to increase the algorithmic transparency of matching systems, and to highlight their discriminatory effects. We are for instance interested in understanding algorithmic effects in situations of cyberviolence, exclusion, or socio-economic discriminations on the basis of our digital identities and behaviors. From the data obtained through SARs, we can understand algorithmic amplification of societal stereotypes as well as their influence on human behaviors (sometimes offline). It is urgent to find solutions to cyberviolence and discrimination problems in a society of algorithmic “personalization” edging ever more towards polarization and fragility.
History
Dating Privacy is a community we have started after identifying several privacy risks we, as dating app users, are confronted with when looking for a date online: algorithmic discriminations and exclusion, stereotype reinforcement, cyberviolence (sexual harassment, rapes facilitated by apps), unwanted ads, harms resulting from incorrect profiling and predictions, the possibility of phishing and identity theft.
Dating Privacy is a collective formed by members coming from different countries and disciplines (mathematics, sociology, journalism, law, arts, physics) and foreparts (academia, private, independent, citizen NGO).
UPCOMING Events
Vendredi 6 mai conférence de Jessica Pidoux à Lyon: Exit, association LGBT+ de l’école d’ingénieur INSA Lyon, créé cette année son premier festival queer, la Semaine des Arts & Sciences Queer, qui aura lieu du 2 au 7 mai 2022.https://sassqueer.fr/
Objectives
Dating Privacy seeks to bring together users' practices with dating app companies to improve personal data collection and processing for the sake of privacy and data rights.
- Build a community with civil society about dating apps' personal data rights
- Raise awareness about personal data concerns in dating apps
- Facilitate users' personal data requests and analysis with tools for data literacy
- Create a cartography of personal data (wiki data structures extracted from the SARs)
- Develop research methodologies that respect personal data rights and contribute with end users' concerns
Contact and Online Activity
- E-mail mailto:datingprivacy@personaldata.io
- Twitter @datingprivacy
- Meetings Online [1] Next one on December 9, 2021 at 19h (CET)
- Subscribe to our mailing list via our website https://dating-privacy.hestialabs.org/en/
- Signal Group where you can debate, share knowledge, find help and help others -> Send us an email to join
- Website https://dating-privacy.hestialabs.org/en/
Before joining please read our Code of Conduct [2] available at the bottom of this wiki.
Our collective is dedicated to providing a safe, friendly, respectful, comfortable environment and harassment-free experience for everyone. We do not tolerate harassment of collective members in any form. Collective members violating these rules may be sanctioned or expelled from the collective at the discretion of the collective's committee.
Past Events
2021
05.10.2021, Vos données personnelles valent de l'or - Récupérez-les ! https://digitaltag.swiss/fr/programm/recuperer-donnees-personnelles-construire-nouveau-monde-digital/
“Dating Privacy” Collective Launch: Our Plan To Change the ‘Data for Dates’ Paradigm – Friday 12th Feb at 7:30 pm (CET)
link to the presentation https://tinyurl.com/20210212datingprivacy
Meetup event: https://www.meetup.com/tech4goodLIN/events/276275535/
Linkedin event https://www.linkedin.com/events/datingprivacy-collectivelaunch-6765208415816974336/about/
Latest Dating Privacy News
06.10.2021 Les experts d’HestiaLabs offrent leurs compétences contre l’exploitation abusive des data https://www.ictjournal.ch/news/2021-10-06/les-experts-dhestialabs-offrent-leurs-competences-contre-lexploitation-abusive-des
Partners
Recommended practices
1/ Start requesting your data via this link https://labs.letemps.ch/interactive/2020/demander-ses-donnees/
- Type in the box the dating app name you use
- Copy-paste the message and email address
- Send it and wait for your file
Why we should all request our personal data https://hestialabs.org/en/blog/editorial/ask-for-your-data/
2/ Already requested your data and received a file? Contribute with the wiki and map what your dating app collects: https://wiki.personaldata.io/wiki/Item:Q3569
3/ Are you an Android phone user? Download Exodus Privacy helps you to know which trackers and permissions are embedded in dating apps installed on your device.
4/ Configure your privacy settings on your dating app.
5/ Check out Mozilla privacy test on different dating apps
6/ Request deleting your data on a dating app when you stop using the app via the settings or sending an email. It is not enough to uninstall the app
Problems Identified
APP
- Subscription rates change according to user demographic characteristics (ex. age on Tinder, sex on Hinge). Prices are invisible outside the app
- Sharing personal data with third parties which is not necessary for the app functioning (ex. for advertisement, see The Grindr case study) and for other purposes unknown (ex. the muslim app providing data to the american army)
- Background geolocation when the app is closed
- Automatic subscription renewal without notification, when there is a problem you have to contact the headquarter in another country
- Fake profiles created by the company (ex. ashley madison, Lovoo), buying profiles
- Between 10-20% of users find a partner in France, Switzerland and United States. Do users really get the outcomes they want from the app in exchange for providing their data? Are users retained in the app?
- The app ignores settings for presenting results (ex. show me only women and the user sees men)
- Users are banned without any reason given by the app
- One user said it has zero matches on Tinder
- Data leaks because of security breaches, the app did not protected the data properly
- Blocking or reporting harmful users that appear again in the victim's app results and the company does not provide any solution or justification
Other USERS
- Scams, phishing, fake profiles. Users are affected by malicious user behaviours so how are dating apps moderating this and protecting users via the analysis of their personal data?
- Rape and harassment: when "unmatching" on Tinder, the conversations and the profile are deleted for the victim. The victim loses the data to report, see https://pages.rts.ch/emissions/temps-present/11994345-le-camp-de-la-honte-aux-portes-de-leurope-08-04-2021.html?anchor=12111124#12111124
If you had a negative experience on a dating app, do not delete your account, take print screens of any conversation online and save the pictures shared with the person. Make a SAR [3] and contact us to help you recover your personal data if the company does not cooperate with you
Members
- Jessica Pidoux works on revealing biases in Tinder's secretive matching algorithms.shttps://jessicapidoux.info/ Pidoux
- Paul-Olivier Dehaye obtained the first personal data file from Tinder along with author Judith Duportail https://bit.ly/3cUOyTB Podehaye
- Marie-Pierre maps the dating app ecosystem and delves into dating app patents Genferei
- Frank has revealed privacy risks on Hinge and is currently being messed around by Hinge, Bumble and Tinder having asked for his data https://bit.ly/2J8mKOo Frandrews
- Judith H. digs into regulation policies and howonline dating interacts with collective practices and communities
Ongoing Projects
Description | planning | in progress | complete | who |
Geneva student projects | x | MP, JH, JP, PO | ||
Tool development, collaboration with Graasp | x | JP | ||
Prepare TRUSTS project | x | JP, JH, MP | ||
Defining the project scope with Hestia | x | JP | ||
Create and publish newsletter | x | JP, MP | ||
Q&A for our website | x | JH | ||
Data analysis workshop with Hestia | x | MP, JP, CF | ||
Cours Transversal numérique UNIGE | x | MP, JP |
Want to submit a project? We are open to new ideas! Write us at mailto:datingprivacy@personaldata.io
Dating app list
- Wiki
-->list of dating apps available on this wiki with ranking on apple and Android
- Wikidata https://wikidata.org
-->list of dating apps available on wikidata
- Bumble's personal data map viz: https://tinyurl.com/y4t5w48z
Top charts
top charts in France https://sensortower.com/android/rankings/top/phone/france/dating?date=2021-04-23
top charts in CH https://sensortower.com/android/rankings/top/phone/switzerland/dating?date=2021-04-23
top charts in UK https://sensortower.com/android/rankings/top/phone/great-britain/dating?date=2021-04-23
- Forum https://forum.personaldata.io
- Notes https://annuel2.framapad.org/p/dating-data-9kf7 (old notes)
Privacy Policies
Links can be found in the wiki
Princeton-Leuven Longitudinal Corpus of Privacy Policies. Front-end here: https://privacypolicies.cs.princeton.edu/ghfront/ and the repository here: https://github.com/citp/privacy-policy-historical
Advertisement third parties
“Out Of Control” – A Review Of Data Sharing By Popular Mobile Apps published in January 2020
see Technical report https://fil.forbrukerradet.no/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/mnemonic-security-test-report-v1.0.pdf
report https://fil.forbrukerradet.no/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/2020-01-14-out-of-control-final-version.pdf
Complaint letters https://www.forbrukerradet.no/side/complaints-against-grindr-and-five-third-party-companies/
PUbMatic
LUMAscape https://www.okanjo.com/blog/2016/12/14/ssp-dsp-dmp-rtb-wtf
Patents
List of Match Group patents: https://policies.tinder.com/intellectual-property/intl/en
Tinder Patents:
number={US20160154569 A1}, author = {Rad, Sean and Carrico, Todd M. and Hoskins, Kenneth B and Stone, James C.}, url = {https://worldwide.espacenet.com/publicationDetails/biblio?II=0&ND=3&adjacent=true&locale=en_EP&FT=D&date=20160602&CC=US&NR=2016154569A1&KC=A1#}, title = {Matching Process System And Method},
number={US9733811B2}, author = {Carrico, Todd M. and Hoskins, Kenneth B and Rad, Sean and Stone, James C. and Badeen, Jonathan}, url = {https://worldwide.espacenet.com/patent/search/family/050234419/publication/US10203854B2?q=pn\%3DUS10203854B2}, title = {Matching Process System And Method},
Match Group SYSTEM AND METHOD FOR USER COMMUNICATION IN A NETWORK https://worldwide.espacenet.com/publicationDetails/biblio?CC=US&NR=2020137019A1&KC=A1&FT=D&DB=en.worldwide.espacenet.com&locale=en_EP&date=20200430&rss=true#
Hinge: Brevet publié en 2013 puis abandonné, jamais délivré. https://worldwide.espacenet.com/publicationDetails/biblio?CC=US&NR=2013066972A1&KC=A1&FT=D&ND=3&date=20130314&DB=EPODOC&locale=en_EP#
Media Audiovisual
19.01.2022, France 2 L'amour sous algorithme https://www.francetvpro.fr/contenu-de-presse/26119382
4 nov 2021, RTS Temps présent Les prédateurs sexuels chassent en ligne https://www.rts.ch/play/tv/redirect/detail/12617904
4 janv. 2021 "Amour : la fin de l'engagement ? - Vox Pop - ARTE" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jOiaY7PUxz4
1 nov 2018, RTS Temps présent "Arnacoeurs, les escrocs de l'amour en ligne" https://www.rts.ch/play/tv/redirect/detail/9963350
Media Press
2022
26.02.2022 « Je préfère ne pas faire de rencontre que de passer par ces applis » : ils ont la vingtaine et ont quitté Tinder https://www.lemonde.fr/m-le-mag/article/2022/02/26/je-prefere-ne-pas-faire-de-rencontre-que-de-passer-par-ces-applis-ils-ont-la-vingtaine-et-ont-quitte-tinder_6115300_4500055.html#xtor=AL-32280270-[default]-[android]
25.02.2022, "Des soldats russes tentent de matcher avec des Ukrainiennes sur Tinder" https://www.vanityfair.fr/actualites/article/des-soldats-russes-tentent-de-matcher-avec-des-ukrainiennes-sur-tinder
Feb. 21, 2022, "Crypto Scammers’ New Target: Dating Apps: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/21/technology/crypto-scammers-new-target-dating-apps.htmlbr>
2021
- August 17 "Tinder vérifiera bientôt l’identité de ses utilisateurs" https://www.igen.fr/app-store/2021/08/tinder-verifiera-bientot-lidentite-de-ses-utilisateurs-124557
- July 27 "Location-based apps (Grindr) pose security risk for Holy See" https://www.pillarcatholic.com/p/location-based-apps-pose-security
- July 20, "Pillar Investigates: USCCB gen sec Burrill resigns after sexual misconduct allegations" https://www.pillarcatholic.com/p/pillar-investigates-usccb-gen-sec
- July 24 "A Catholic newsletter promised investigative journalism. Then it outed a priest using Grindr data." https://www.washingtonpost.com/religion/catholic-priest-grindr-pillar/2021/07/24/b2772f02-ecb6-11eb-8950-d73b3e93ff7f_story.html
- June Apps de rencontre et données personnelles : « c’est un match ! » https://linc.cnil.fr/apps-de-rencontre-et-donnees-personnelles-cest-un-match
- 2021, ""Grindr" to be fined almost € 10 Mio over GDPR complaint. The Gay Dating App was illegally sharing sensitive data of millions of users." https://noyb.eu/en/gay-dating-app-grindr-be-fined-almost-eu-10-mio
2020
- April 2020, "Lesbian, gay and bisexual online daters report positive experiences – but also harassment" https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/04/09/lesbian-gay-and-bisexual-online-daters-report-positive-experiences-but-also-harassment/
- March 2020, "Young women often face sexual harassment online – including on dating sites and apps" https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/03/06/young-women-often-face-sexual-harassment-online-including-on-dating-sites-and-apps/
- June 2020, "Exclusive: Winning bidder for Grindr has ties to Chinese owner" https://www.reuters.com/article/us-grindr-m-a-sanvicente-exclusive-idUSKBN2391AI
- November 2020, "Signalement, règles, chat vidéo… Tinder met le paquet sur la sécurité de ses « matches »" https://www.frandroid.com/android/applications/802475_signalement-regles-chat-video-tinder-met-le-paquet-sur-la-securite-de-ses-matches
- October 2, 2020, Tinder Is the Latest Social Media Battleground in Thai Protests https://foreignpolicy.com/2020/10/02/tinder-is-the-latest-social-media-battleground-in-thai-protests/
- April 6, 2020, Phone tracking is having a moment, but gay dating app Scruff wants no part of it https://www.protocol.com/scruff-rejects-selling-location-data
- Aug 11, 2020, Tinder slammed over mysterious premium pricing, transparency and data use concerns https://mashable.com/article/tinder-plus-different-prices-age-discrimination/?europe=true
- Aug , 2020 Jessica Pidoux ou les mysteres des algorithmes de Tinder https://open.spotify.com/episode/2j1Hl7UFS7QVdLvHNy936v?si=e3d40222668d480a&nd=1
- January 2020, "Tinder intègre un bouton d'appel d'urgence" https://www.generation-nt.com/tinder-bouton-appel-urgence-securite-moonlight-match-group-actualite-1972447.html
- January 2020, 70,000 Tinder Photos of Women Just Got Dumped on a Cyber-Crime Forum https://gizmodo.com/70-000-tinder-photos-of-women-just-got-dumped-on-a-cybe-1841043456
2019
- OK Cupid blog archive https://web.archive.org/web/20190212000843if_/https://www.reddit.com/r/gwern/comments/aapn1l/okcupid_blog_archives/
2018
- Nov 2018, "John Patterson, l’homme qui inventa la machine à rencontres amoureuses" https://www.lemonde.fr/m-actu/article/2018/11/02/john-patterson-l-homme-qui-inventa-la-machine-a-rencontres-amoureuses_5377755_4497186.html
- August 2018, "Selon une étude Sites de rencontre : comment fonctionne la hiérarchie de la «désirabilité» ?" https://www.liberation.fr/sciences/2018/08/22/sites-de-rencontre-comment-fonctionne-la-hierarchie-de-la-desirabilite_1673893/
- February 12, 2018, Love at first swipe, What happens to your data when you look for love, Lunchtime conference of European Data Protection Supervisor trainees, Brussels https://youtu.be/9XJWtFhtWd8
2017
- Feb 2017, "Sites de rencontres, des relations (plus) humaines" et les matchmakers https://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:wC8Ik1RSXf4J:https://www.lenouveleconomiste.fr/dossier-art-de-vivre/sites-de-rencontres-des-relations-plus-humaines-33877
- March 8, 2017, Tinder Select: You’re Not Cool Enough To Get the Secret Version of Tinder https://fortune.com/2017/03/08/tinder-select-exclusive-members/
- April 2017, "Dans le laboratoire de la «fake science» [...] le Danois Emil Kirkegaard, nouvelle coqueluche de l'extrême droite" https://www.letemps.ch/sciences/laboratoire-fake-science
- Live streaming drives growth in chinese dating app momo (2017) https://techcrunch.com/2017/03/09/momo-live-streaming/
- July 17, 2017, Match Group appoints global head of privacy in Paris https://iapp.org/news/a/match-group-appoints-global-head-of-privacy-in-paris/
- May 16, 2017, Why we need a dating app that understands Nash’s equilibrium https://hackernoon.com/why-we-need-a-dating-app-that-understands-nashs-equilibrium-2dc4a862b47e
2016
- 2016, "What Tinder and Halo Have in Common" https://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2016/01/how-tinder-matchmaking-is-like-warcraft/424350/
- Top iOS dating apps are exposing your personal life to hackers https://www.wired.co.uk/article/the-dating-apps-exposing-your-personal-life-to-hackers
- Investidating: why deep photo analysis has become part of online hook-ups https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2018/jul/05/tinder-online-dating-apps-photos
- How algorithms on dating apps are contributing to racism in our love lives https://officialfamemagazine.com/2020/06/28/how-algorithms-on-dating-apps-are-contributing-to-racism-in-our-love-lives/
- Blinq dating app uses AI to judge hotness https://techcrunch.com/2016/01/11/blinq-dating-app-uses-ai-to-judge-hotness/
to organize by date
- Tinder Elo Score: https://www.fastcompany.com/3054871/whats-your-tinder-score-inside-the-apps-internal-ranking-system
- Irish Data Protection Commission: https://www.dataprotection.ie/en/data-protection-commission-launches-statutory-inquiry-mtch-technology-services-limited-tinder
- Tinder and GDPR Paul-Olivier D. https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/sep/27/tinder-data-privacy-tech-eu-general-data-protection-regulation
- Match Group financial report: https://s22.q4cdn.com/279430125/files/doc_financials/2020/q1/MTCH-1Q-2020-Earnings-Release_Final.pdf
- Gillette study on Tinder: https://web.archive.org/web/20150323010313/http://shavetest.com/
- https://youtu.be/HSYaRgKYeek
- https://www.esquire.com/style/grooming/a32478/women-on-tinder-dont-like-beards-020514/
- Data privacy "Five Reasons You Should Delete Hinge" https://bit.ly/2J8mKOo
- How the U.S. Military Buys Location Data from dating apps like Mingle https://www.vice.com/en/article/jgqm5x/us-military-location-data-xmode-locate-x
- Video integration on Hinge "Seeking a Partner for the End of the World" https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/06/style/cuffing-season.html
- Fake profiles in online dating "Online-Dating: Auf diesen Portalen flirten Fake-Profile" https://www.verbraucherzentrale.de/wissen/digitale-welt/onlinedienste/onlinedating-auf-diesen-portalen-flirten-fakeprofile-21848
- MENSTRUAPPS – How to turn your period into money (for others) https://chupadados.codingrights.org/en/menstruapps-como-transformar-sua-menstruacao-em-dinheiro-para-os-outros/
- "Tinder lance son chat vidéo. Quid de la modération ?" https://siecledigital.fr/2020/07/09/tinder-chat-video-moderation/
- "Après huit mois de retard, le service de rencontres de Facebook arrive en France" https://www.lemonde.fr/pixels/article/2020/10/22/apres-huit-mois-de-retard-le-service-de-rencontres-de-facebook-arrive-en-france_6056968_4408996.html
- "Tesla owners looking for love can now join a dating network exclusively for 'like-minded Elon stans'" https://www.businessinsider.com/tesla-dating-app-owners-only-car-obsessed-elon-musk-stans-2020-8?r=US&IR=T
- "We do not believe in algorithms: Happn CEO" https://www.cnbc.com/video/2016/10/05/we-do-not-believe-in-algorithms-happn-ceo.html?__source=sharebar%7Clinkedin&par=sharebar
- Video documentary: How dating turns into business.... "Chat moderators" are employees with fake profiles replying 24/7 to users who pay per message and believe they are writing to "potential partners" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tttHVfn_joo&feature=share
- Judith Duportail article "I asked Tinder for my data. It sent me 800 pages of my deepest, darkest secrets" https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/sep/26/tinder-personal-data-dating-app-messages-hacked-sold?utm_source=esp&utm_medium=Email&utm_campaign=GU+Today+main+NEW+H+categories&utm_term=245390&subid=20455723&CMP=EMCNEWEML6619I2
- Emmanuel Kessous, sociologue du numérique "La vie privée dans l'économie numérique. Une approche par les usages" https://www.slideshare.net/lpg/la-vie-prive-dans-lconomie-numrique-une-approche-par-les-usages
- Coffee Meets Bagel dating app "trying to end #ghosting" by showing user activity stats! http://engt.co/2ngTA2u
- How To Get A Match, According to Tinder’s Sociologist https://www.fastcompany.com/3062454/how-to-get-a-match-according-to-tinders-sociologist
- Intéressant car il existe aussi Pokémon GO Dating "« Pokémon Go » : les multiples facteurs des inégalités géographiques" https://www.lemonde.fr/pixels/article/2016/08/03/pokemon-go-les-multiples-facteurs-des-inegalites-geographiques_4977738_4408996.html
- How I [engineer] Decide Who Gets Banned on OkCupid https://www.thecut.com/2017/02/banned-from-okcupid-sexting-moderation.html
- OkCupid inferences: The 8 Personalities You’ll Meet When Dating in the U.S. https://theblog.okcupid.com/the-8-personalities-youll-meet-when-dating-in-the-u-s-9d87a5a40274#db60
Dating Privacy / Jessica Pidoux in Media and Conferences
MEDIA
2022
30.02.2022 "Elyze, le Tinder de l'apolitique" https://www.arretsurimages.net/chroniques/clic-gauche/elyze-le-tinder-de-lapolitique
2021
- 30.12.2021 RTS, "On en parle" sur le sujet Série "Empreinte et emprise des réseaux sociaux" (4/5): les applications de rencontre https://www.rts.ch/la-1ere/programmes/on-en-parle/12724161-serie-empreinte-et-emprise-des-reseaux-sociaux-45-les-applications-de-rencontre-30-12-2021.html?mediaShare=1
- 30.12.2021, The Conversation, « Concevoir des applications informatiques respectueuses des humains » https://theconversation.com/concevoir-des-applications-informatiques-respectueuses-des-humains-161950
- La Joliette https://www.arcinfo.ch/neuchatel-canton/littoral/neuchatel-commune/neuchatel-ville/un-magazine-inclusif-local-et-artistique-realise-a-neuchatel-1135598
- Others: journal frontalier, capsules vidéo dhcenter (links to add)
- 29.11.2021 La Ligne de cœur, une émission de la Première, interview du 22h43 (links to add)
- 19 October 2021 "Comment éviter les mauvaises rencontres sur les applications" https://www.ledauphine.com/magazine-lifestyle/2021/10/19/comment-eviter-les-mauvaises-rencontres-sur-les-applications
- 5 October 2021, RTS ABE, "L'amour à tout prix" https://www.rts.ch/play/tv/a-bon-entendeur/video/sites-de-rencontre--lamour-a-tous-prix?urn=urn:rts:video:12545127
- October 2021, Usbek & Rica, printed "Hasard et destin : it’s a match !"
- 8 oct. 2021 Travail de mémoire: Teaser - Tinder, feu aux poudres ou poudre aux yeux ? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yoZr7s_6ZeU
- Sept 2021 Les applis de rencontres en ligne révèlent un paradoxe https://actu.epfl.ch/news/les-applis-de-rencontres-en-ligne-revelent-un-para/
- Sept 2021 Pour Jessica, Tinder n’a plus aucun secret… ou presque https://www.lemessager.fr/16823/article/2020-12-09/pour-jessica-tinder-n-plus-aucun-secret-ou-presque
- 13 08 2021 Le débat - La vaccination devient-elle un critère de séduction? Olivier Glassey | UNIL, Jessica Pidoux | EPFL, Forum https://avisdexperts.ch/videos/view/13490
- 9 juil. 2021 VIVRE- Algorithmes et expériences vivantes au Festival de la Cité https://osm.org/go/0CSOeuGN?relation=4649694
- “HestiaLabs is a technical and legal support for our collective”, explains Jessica Pidoux https://hestialabs.org/en/blog/editorial/hestialabs-is-a-technical-and-legal-support-for-our-collective-explains-jessica-pidoux/
- 22 03 2021 Tinder, l'application la plus téléchargée dans le monde Jessica Pidoux | EPFL TTC https://avisdexperts.ch/videos/view/12915
- 19 01 2021. Le 19h30, Plus sérieux qu'on les imagine, les amours 2.0 ne sont pas que batifolage, Jessica Pidoux | EPFL, Gina Potarca | UNIGE, https://avisdexperts.ch/videos/view/12599
Earlier
- 03 06 2020 Tinder, dans le ventre de lʹappli Jessica Pidoux | EPFL, Vacarme https://avisdexperts.ch/videos/view/11419
- 17 05 2019 Les dessous de l'algorithme de Tinder https://avisdexperts.ch/videos/view/9862/2
- Jessica Pidoux, l’algorithme de Tinder dans la peau https://www.letemps.ch/societe/jessica-pidoux-lalgorithme-tinder-peau
- Data privacy "Five Reasons You Should Delete Hinge" https://bit.ly/2J8mKOo
Conferences
2022
2022
30.03.2022 Information Security and Personal Data Protection: Panel Discussion at Applied machine learning days EPFL 2020, Jessica Pidoux, Paul-Olivier Dehaye and Hannes Grassegger, hosted by Mirko Bischofberger https://appliedmldays.org/events/amld-epfl-2022/talks/information-security-and-personal-data-protection-panel-discussion
17.03.2022 Governance by infrastructure https://www.infoclio.ch/fr/governance-infrastructure, video available at https://rec.unil.ch/permalink/v1263e979ba46seujk50/iframe/
14.03.2022: Journée "Matching Love: subvertir et reproduire les normes de genre et de sexualités. Enjeux méthodologiques et féministes" *, avec Fred Pailler, sociologue, Post Doc, Université de Luxembourg, Jessica Pidoux, sociologue, Post Doc, Sciences Po, Paris, Marie Bersgtröm, Chargée de recherche à l'INED, Paris https://www.unige.ch/etudes-genre/fr/conferences-et-colloques/cycle-de-conferences-publiques/cycle-de-conferences-2021-2022/?surveySuccess=1&qsid=1631718578
10.03.2022 MetSem séminaire méthodologique https://dhcenter-unil-epfl.ch/en/event/jessica-pidoux-est-linvitee-du-prochain-seminaire-methodologie-de-sciencespo/
9.03.2022, CNIL, Données personnelles et action collective avec PersonalData.IO et Hestia.AI par Jessica Pidoux et Paul-Olivier Dehaye
10.02.2022, online "The Dating Market: Programming User Attention and Interaction". Registration at https://www.meetup.com/de-DE/uxrgzh/events/283569464/ organized by UX Research Guild Zurich, video available at https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JZNbLQC3q29xO386aXZA7JmkxRQwPxVi/view
19.01.2022, CNIL, Données personnelles et action collective avec PersonalData.IO et Hestia.AI par Jessica Pidoux et Marie-Pierre V.
01.02.2022 (Paris) "Internet dans le boudoir, bArTeC" en préparation de la Valentin ce , à La Gaîté Lyrique https://eur-artec.fr/evenements/internet-dans-le-boudoir-bartec/ une discussion avec Judith Duportail, Adrien Péquignot et Jessica Pidoux, audio enregistré disponible sur https://soundcloud.com/user-30634948/bartec-internet-dans-le-boudoir-1
2021
- 30.11.2021 Bureau de l'Egalité, EPFL: CONTINUUM - Online Conference: “How We’ve Taught Algorithms to See Identity” https://memento.epfl.ch/event/continuum-online-conference-how-weve-taught-algo-2/
- EY online conference about data power (link to add)
- "The metrics of online dating. A sociological study of matching algorithms ". Organisé par Bern Meetup.
Date: 20 avril 2021, de 18:00 à 20:00 UTC+2 - En ligne https://www.meetup.com/fr-FR/UX-Schweiz-Meetup-Bern/events/276247238/
- 27 September 2021. Conference Track: Participatory Evaluation in Citizen Science - 1st Global Transdisciplinarity Conference 2021. "Cooperation Analytics Measuring the quality of collaborations" Jessica Pidoux et Alessia Smaniotto
Studies conducted scrapping dating app profiles
- Emil Kirkegaard. The OKCupid dataset: A very largepublic dataset of dating site users: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Emil_O_W_Kirkegaard/project/The-OKCupid-dataset-A-very-large-public-dataset-of-dating-site-users/attachment/573b1d7e08aea7adff2f3c8d/AS:362725751443460@1463491966863/download/paper.pdf?context=ProjectUpdatesLog
- Konsinski.DEEP NEURAL NETWORKSCAN DETECT SEXUAL ORIENTATION FROM FACES: https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/sites/gsb/files/publication-pdf/wang_kosinski.pdf
- John Leuner, a master’s student studying information technology at South Africa's University of Pretoria, attempted to reproduce the aforementioned study. The infamous AI gaydar study was repeated – and, no, code can't tell if you're straight or not just from your face: https://www.theregister.com/2019/03/05/ai_gaydar/
- Gareth Tyson, Vasile C. Perta, Hamed Haddadi, Michael C. Seto, A First Look at User Activity on Tinder http://arxiv.org/abs/1607.01952
- Charles F. Jekel (cjekel@ufl.edu; cj@jekel.me) and Raphael T. Haftka, CLASSIFYING ONLINE DATING PROFILES ON TINDER USING FACENET FACIAL EMBEDDINGS http://arxiv.org/abs/1803.04347
Legal
Tinder Annual report: Tinder on-going accusations. The Irish DPC case, also prices can vary according to users' age https://s22.q4cdn.com/279430125/files/doc_financials/2019/ar/Match-Group-2019-Annual-Report.pdf
My GDPR Complaint Against Tinder https://forum.personaldata.io/t/my-gdpr-complaint-against-tinder/70
Data Protection Commission launches Statutory Inquiry into MTCH Technology Services Limited (Tinder) https://www.dataprotection.ie/en/news-media/latest-news/data-protection-commission-launches-statutory-inquiry-mtch-technology
Data leaks and media scandals
Ashley Madison
Ashley Madison Leak No Big Deal? Think Again https://www.makeuseof.com/tag/priority-ashley-madison-leak-no-big-deal-think/
Les résultats de Grindr révélés grâce au scandale Ashley Madison "Grindr a eu des revenus résultant à la fois des abonnements et de la publicité de près de 16 millions de dollars en 2012" https://www.fugues.com/243577-article-les-resultats-de-grindr-reveles-grace-au-scandale-ashley-madison.html
OkCupid:
Here is a mirror for the OKCupid OSF Emil Kirkegaard dataset https://www.reddit.com/r/datasets/comments/4jj53i/here_is_a_mirror_for_the_okcupid_osf_emil/
Researchers Caused an Uproar By Publishing Data From 70,000 OkCupid Users https://fortune.com/2016/05/18/okcupid-data-research/
Controversy over OKCupid keynote at CHI 2018 https://www.reddit.com/r/sciences/comments/8edxm3/controversy_over_okcupid_keynote_at_chi_2018/
Grindr:
Données privées : le site de rencontres Grindr mis en cause https://www.lemonde.fr/pixels/article/2018/04/03/donnees-privees-le-site-de-rencontres-grindr-mis-en-cause_5279794_4408996.html
Lovoo
LOVOO’s CEO Benjamin Bak resigns https://inside.lovoo.com/en/lovoos-ceo-benjamin-bak-resigns-2/
happn
En détournant l’app Happn, un hacker peut tracer votre chemin en temps réel https://cyberguerre.numerama.com/5827-en-detournant-lapp-happn-un-hacker-peut-tracer-votre-chemin-en-temps-reel.html
MobiFiends Barcelona Based dating app, user data breach https://www.infosecurity-magazine.com/news/data-breach-exposes-four-million/
coffee meets Bagel 2019,Happy Valentine’s Day: your dating app account was hacked, says Coffee Meets Bagel https://techcrunch.com/2019/02/14/happy-valentines-day-your-dating-app-account-was-hacked-says-coffee-meets-bagel/
J crush 2019, Jewish dating app JCrush exposed user data and private messages https://techcrunch.com/2019/06/04/jcrush-exposed-data-messages/
Donal Daters 2018, Donald Daters, a dating app for Trump supporters, leaked its users’ data https://techcrunch.com/2018/10/15/donald-daters-a-dating-app-for-trump-supporters-leaked-its-users-data/
Meet Mindful 2021, Hacker leaks data of 2.28 million dating site users a dating site platform "for people who are into health, well-being, and mindfulness" https://www.zdnet.com/article/hacker-leaks-data-of-2-28-million-dating-site-users/
3somes, CougarD, Gay Daddy Bear, Xpal, BBW Dating, Casualx, SugarD, Herpes Dating 2020, Report: Breach Exposes 100,000+ Users on Niche Dating Apps https://www.vpnmentor.com/blog/report-dating-apps-leak/
Fessées, menottes, bondage : les préférences sexuelles de 20 000 Français fuitent d’un forum Forum "Domi" reportedly related as subsidiary to self claimed fintech group BD Multimedia https://cyberguerre.numerama.com/4925-fessees-menottes-bondage-les-preferences-sexuelles-de-20-000-francais-fuitent-dun-forum.html
Wikipedia source: https://privacy.wiki/Dating_Apps_User_Information_Leaked_Online
References with databases
Rosenfeld, Michael J., Reuben J. Thomas, and Sonia Hausen. 2019 How Couples Meet and Stay Together 2017 fresh sample. [Computer files]. Stanford, CA: Stanford University Libraries.
The OKCupid dataset: A very large public dataset of dating site users https://www.researchgate.net/project/The-OKCupid-dataset-A-very-large-public-dataset-of-dating-site-users
- Full paper: https://web.archive.org/web/20200728135539/https://openpsych.net/files/papers/Kirkegaard_2016g.pdf
Surveys
Tinder usage statistics: https://www.businessofapps.com/data/tinder-statistics/\#2
Pew Research Center (Feb 2020): The Virtues and Downsides of Online Dating. Retrieved from https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2020/02/06/the-virtues-and-downsides-of-online-dating/
Swiss Federal Statistical Office (Nov 2019): Families and Generations Survey. Retrieved from https://www.bfs.admin.ch/bfs/fr/home/statistiques/population/enquetes/efg.assetdetail.10467789.html
INED France (2016) https://www.ined.fr/fr/publications/editions/population-et-societes/sites-rencontres-qui-y-trouve-son-conjoint/
Roughly six-in-ten online daters in the U.S. are concerned about data collection (May 29, 2020) https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/05/29/roughly-six-in-ten-online-daters-in-the-u-s-are-concerned-about-data-collection/
Survey in Germany (2017) https://www.splendid-research.com/de/studie-dating-portale.html
Academic References
2021, Hermine Lacour, Thèse doctorale: Les composants logiciels libres : détermination d’une méthode systématique relative à la distribution de composants, au regard des droits suisse, français et étasunien, https://libra.unine.ch/Publications/47788
2021, Jessica Pidoux, thèse doctorale: Online Dating Quantification Practices: A Human-Machine Learning Process, https://infoscience.epfl.ch/record/288400?ln=fr
Technical references
An Evidence‐based Forensic Taxonomy of Windows Phone Dating Apps https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/1556-4029.13820
Privacy Risks in Mobile Dating Apps https://arxiv.org/abs/1505.02906
Technical report by mnemonic with the Norwegian consummer assoc showing data trading and GDPR compliance coded: https://fil.forbrukerradet.no/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/mnemonic-security-test-report-v1.0.pdf
Tinder engineering blog: https://medium.com/tinder-engineering/
TinVec explanation by Tinder's Chief Scientist at Machine Learning Conference: https://youtu.be/j2rfLFYYdfM
Happn by exodus: https://reports.exodus-privacy.eu.org/en/reports/com.ftw_and_co.happn/latest/
OkCupid engineering website: Evaluating Perceptual Image Hashes at OkCupid https://tech.okcupid.com/evaluating-perceptual-image-hashes-okcupid/
How OkCupid organizes its multi-page React app https://tech.okcupid.com/how-okcupid-organizes-its-multi-page-react-app/
Lovoo engineering: dotGo 2016: Go machine learning at large scale https://lovoodotblog.wordpress.com/2016/11/01/dotgo-2016-go-machine-learning-at-large-scale/
Lovoo github: https://github.com/lovoo
bbuzz 17: Anti-Spam and Machine learning at LOVOO
https://lovoodotblog.wordpress.com/2017/06/16/bbuzz-17-anti-spam-and-machine-learning-at-lovoo/
Digital methods project "Mapping data ecologies of the dating industry" https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1n-p_efBmkK2v1KGCbHyHb_csmR6D7KN8SX3qron9Cn4/edit
Data Literacy & Cooperative Tools
- realtalkforchange https://portal.realtalkforchange.org/
- Tracking dick picks https://dickstinction.com/en/
- Pythus: un projet pour analyser les dangers des applications Android https://www.nextinpact.com/article/45976/pithus-projet-pour-analyser-dangers-applications-android
- https://app.quicktype.io/
- https://digitalplatformobservatory.org/lapp-dpo/
- https://graasp.eu/
- https://bevigil.com app metadata, permissions, ...
- Cookieviz, une dataviz en temps réel du tracking de votre navigation créé par le CNIL https://linc.cnil.fr/fr/cookieviz-une-dataviz-en-temps-reel-du-tracking-de-votre-navigation
- Tools to sample how many apps are in the Google and Play stores: "Google Play Store Scraper" is a simple tool to extract the details of individual apps, collect their related apps, retrieve app permissions, and retrieve a list of apps for a given keyword." https://wiki.digitalmethods.net/Dmi/ToolDatabase ex:Google Play Store Scraper http://tools.digitalmethods.net/app-scrapers/#/google for login ask MP
- Doc example of how to read data exports https://slack.com/intl/en-ch/help/articles/220556107-How-to-read-Slack-data-exports
- The observatory of anonymity https://cpg.doc.ic.ac.uk/observatory/analyze-your-data
- RDM kit: online guide and tools containing good data management practices applicable to research projects https://rdmkit.elixir-europe.org/all_tools_and_resources.html
- Lookup popular software licenses summarized at-a-glance https://tldrlegal.com/
- http://corrupt.marketing/publishers/grindr.com
- https://app.quicktype.io/
- Outil PIA- CNIL https://www.cnil.fr/fr/outil-pia-telechargez-et-installez-le-logiciel-de-la-cnil
- GDPR Data Portability https://cellar-c2.services.clever-cloud.com/alias-code-is-law-assets/static/report/gdpr_data_portability_the_forgotten_right_report_full.pdf
- APIs and tools to help Developers and DPOs to manage GDPR compliance at scale https://www.alias.dev/
- heroku https://www.heroku.com/
- open humans
- art tools: https://www.brainstore.com/en/tools-summary
- pithus: https://beta.pithus.org/report/226d01d9645270283cfbd056e8021032d06ae29b4212afc81fa5552a133222da
- NYT viz: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2020/04/28/world/asia/coronavirus-singapore-migrants.html?smid=tw-nytimes&smtyp=cur
- https://fr.openfoodfacts.org
- https://correctiv.org/crowdnewsroom-pro/
- exodus privacy
- algorithmwatch -https://algorithmwatch.org/de/dataskop/
- madada
- https://ucldigitalpress.co.uk/Book/Article/76/100/5736/
- https://www.peren.gouv.fr/projets/
- (In progress) a 1M EU project: https://csi-cop.eu/
- TrackerControl https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.kollnig.missioncontrol.play&hl=en_US&gl=US
- Plaintes.ch
- NosLois https://www.sciencespo.fr/fr/actualites/actualit%C3%A9s/a-la-recherche-d-une-democratie-participative-decouvrez-l-application-noslois/6831
- Plateforme PARle - Canada
- Open terms archive : french gov tool - repo of versions of terms of services + notification service https://wiki.personaldata.io/wiki/Item:Q5379
Changes to terms of service, cookies and privacy policy
Partnership with OpenTerms Archive https://opentermsarchive.org/en.
This service allows to follow the changes to terms of service, cookies policy, privacy policy,... by being notified whenever a new version is published, and exploring their entire history.
See the different apps available here: https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/services-dating
If you want to monitor another dating service, go to https://contribute.opentermsarchive.org/en?destination=OpenTermsArchive/services-dating and fill the URL you want to track
Link to track changes for dating apps
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main.atom ( a RSS reader is necessary)
For a specific dating app
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/AdopteUnMec.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Badoo.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/ChristianMingle.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/DisonsDemain.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/eharmony.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Fruitz.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Grindr.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/happn.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/HER.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Hily.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Inshallah.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Jdate.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/LOVOO.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/LoveScout24.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Match.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Meetic.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Mektoube.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/OkCupid.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Parship.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/ROMEO.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Tinder.atom
- https://github.com/OpenTermsArchive/versions-dating/commits/main/Zoosk.atom
List of apps for which we have obtained our data after a SAR
App | Female* user | Male* user | Country | file format |
---|---|---|---|---|
Adopteunmec | 2 | 0 | CH ; FR | json |
Badoo | 1 | 0 | CH | json, zip, jpeg, txt |
Bumble | 1 | 0 | CH | html, zip (il y a quelques années) |
happn | 1 | 0 | CH | csv, zip, json, audio, photos (jpeg), gz |
HER | 1 | 0 | CH | different csv.zip, jpeg, |
Once | 1 | 0 | CH | html, jpeg, |
Parship | 1 | 0 | CH | pdf, zip, csv, zip, text, photos, |
PlanetRomeo | 0 | 1 | CH | pdf.zip, json, yaml, jpeg, |
Scruff | 0 | 1 | CH | zip, ds_file, xml, csv, .md, image, |
Grindr | 0 | 1 | CH | zip, image, |
Tinder | 1 | 1 | CH | json, zip, html, jpeg |
celibataire.ch | 1 | 0 | CH | does not provide a file |
WOO | 0 | 0 | - |
- We make the distiction between female and male users only as the majority of dating apps are designed according to a binary defintion of sex and the gender definitions are limited
Catalog describing data formats: https://github.com/hestiaAI/data-catalog
TO DO
Description | planning | in progress | complete | who |
*Map the data ecosystem | x | all | ||
*Next meeting Define the case study with questions we want to analyse | x | |||
*Add downloads per app in the wiki. | x | |||
*Add ranking per app in CH, FR, UK the wiki. | x | J, MP | ||
*Dating app list https://tinyurl.com/goaldatingdata | ||||
*Add link to privacy policy | x | |||
*Add examples of silver dating apps (ref Le Monde) | x | MP | ||
*Add examples of community apps | x | MP | ||
*Check if policy documents are the same in different languages FR, EN, ... ( i.e TikTok doesn't) | ||||
*Organize media articles per data | ||||
*Develop tools for data literacy | ||||
*Define the methodology: data protection protocol and data collection and analysis method (EPFL Grasp tool or other?) | ||||
*Data analysis | x | |||
*Patent search and analysis | MP? | |||
*Privacy policies analysis | ||||
*Email us other ideas you have for contributing | x | all | ||
*Publish launch video | x | J | ||
*Communicate regularly | X | F | ||
*Keep updated mailing list subscribers | x | |||
*Create a website | x | |||
*Document our tests in the apps | ||||
*Document SAR procedures | x | H | ||
*Write ethical chart + privacy policy | x | H | ||
Contact sexual victim's associations | x | J | ||
*Check for subcontractors who wiil back-up the data | H |
Fundraising
- EU CITIZEN SCIENCE https://eu-citizen.science/blog/2021/07/19/monthoftheproject-winner-amai/
- TRUSTS
- COESO
- EMILIE GOURD http://www.emiliegourd.ch/demander-un-soutien (limited to 5K)
- STIFTUNG MERCATOR (DE) https://www.stiftung-mercator.ch/stiftung/f%C3%B6rderung
- CIVICA https://www.civica.eu/2022-research-call/
- Data Trusts Initiative
- CLUSTER EU https://ec.europa.eu/info/research-and-innovation/events/upcoming-events/horizon-europe-info-days/cluster-2_en
- EU research: https://www.euresearch.ch/
- EU research and Cluster https://www.euresearch.ch/en/our-services/inform/events/culture-creativity-and-inclusive-society-calls-2022-in-horizon-europe-info-and-brokerage-event-443.html
- Digital Europe: https://digital-strategy.ec.europa.eu/en/activities/digital-programme
- COST SNF MAY: https://www.snf.ch/fr/EpxgsoxjZBQv6id1/encouragement/programmes/cost
- innosuisse, eurostars https://www.innosuisse.ch/inno/en/home/go-global/tenders-overview.html
- starting grants 2022 https://www.snf.ch/fr/w728UqT1Yw256Mz2/encouragement/snsf-starting-grants-2022 février 2022 "Vous avez au moins 3 ans d’expérience dans la recherche"
- BRIDGE 6 déc, innovation proof of concept https://www.bridge.ch/fr/pour-les-jeunes-chercheuses-et-chercheurs-proof-of-concept/
- SNSF Swiss Postdoctoral Fellowships (SPF) https://www.snf.ch/de/api/media/fr/CJhQjHq9BdUdOrFB/210924_call_document_swiss_postdoctoral_fellowships_en.pdf#page=3
- AGORA 15 octobre https://www.snf.ch/fr/JnT2xEAERCgO8qQc/encouragement/communication-scientifique/agora
- Encouragement des projets 1 octobre https://www.snf.ch/fr/WAvYcY7awAUGolST/encouragement/projets/projets-toutes-les-disciplines
Code of Conduct
This code of conduct (coc) is based on Queer code's coc [4] distributed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike license. We adapted it to our context and thank Queer code for this work.
A primary goal of all the interactions and messaging groups of our collective Dating Privacy that refer to this Code of Conduct is to be inclusive to the largest number of contributors, with the most varied and diverse backgrounds possible. As such, we are committed to providing a respectful, friendly, safe, comfortable and welcoming environment for all, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, physical appearance, body size, technological choices, lack of scientific or technical knowledge, ability, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, religion (or lack thereof) and other personal conditions and choices.
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If a collective member engages in unacceptable behavior, the collective leaders may take any action they deem appropriate, up to and including a temporary ban or permanent expulsion from the collective without warning (and without refund in the case of a paid event or membership).
If you are subject to or witness unacceptable behavior, feel someone is being treated disrespectfully, or have any other concerns, point out the problem to any member you feel comfortable talking to as soon as possible. If you don’t know who to talk to, contact Jessica Pidoux via email [6].
If you feel you have been falsely or unfairly accused of violating this Code of Conduct, you should notify one of the event organizers, Jessica Pidoux via email [7] or in person with a concise description of your grievance. Your grievance will be handled in accordance with our existing governing policies.
Scope
We expect all collective members and participants (contributors, paid or otherwise; sponsors; and other guests) to abide by this Code of Conduct in all collective venues—online and in-person—as well as in all one-on-one communications pertaining to collective activities.